My Bad, Ego

My Bad, Ego

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My Bad, Ego

As always the new year is a fresh start to make different choices for a happier and healthier life.

Some clients tell me that they want to get rid of their ego because having ego is not a good thing. So is ego good or bad? Why?

I belong to a wonderful community and I attend many classes to gain knowledge to better serve my clients and myself. We were to partner up with two other people. A question that was asked, What is ego? I shared that it has a positive aspect, it is to serve us through our lives and that it could also be our biggest impairment on the path of life.

Without ego the self could never be whole. However, it’s a practice of society to separate oneself from ego, to dissociate. “My ego is out of control” or “it was my ego” these statements lay blame on something which would be separated from the individual as if it were outside and they are not responsible. So when one projects anger and crankiness out onto others then claims it was their ego they are not taking responsibility. If the individual states “I am out of control” or “it was me,” there is no disassociation, they take responsibility for their actions and make a decision to change their behavior and do their work.

Ego is necessary to life. It is our protector. It’s not negative nor positive. A healthy ego is in balance when we are in our power, have good self-esteem and feeling solid in one-self. It’s having compassion, patience, love and kindness for self as well as others. It’s a place of openheartedness, a willingness to change our minds,  beliefs and it motivates us to move forward to make choices that serve us. Ego is that power house which tells me “I can do this, I am capable to achieve my goal.”

“When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will know peace and joy.”
                                                                                                                      ~ The Dalai Lama


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